Today it feels like things are happening to you versus for or around you. A burgeoning new collection of masks most likely dot your homescape, reminders to place them back across your face once you leave the car to head into the store. A store where you once knew where everything was now is overrun by newcomers and those intent on bucking the new world and system we find ourselves in. If your skin is Black, the voyage is much harder, as the virus hits us hardest. We tend to take the positions of those deemed essential, but only when our lives are on the line. Something about this time and place is different. Could it be that those not Black and POC have gotten a taste of systemic marginalization in these last few months? That $1200 to $1700 check wasn’t enough to cover those rainy days we are to prepare for or to purchase those boots with the straps we hear so much about? Many of us are moving through this space with a partner at our side. It’s a beautiful thing to navigate the peaks and valleys of this world with someone who understands. But sometimes, because the world can leave everything as nails, we grow into hammers against those within our spaces. How can we go loudly into that good fight and not turn our weapons on each other? Below, I list a few takeaways to try at home. I’ll also be including notes for those of us who may be single at this time.
Fighting for our sanity in the face of an ever-changing political and cultural landscape will take a toll on any unit. So how does one avoid subbing in your partner for the world? One thought is to shift your energy forward. Share with one another the fear you have and what it stems from. Living out this life in a Black or brown body comes with its fair share of hardships. Having someone there to listen to those aches can shift focus from what’s not being understood in the world to what’s plain and simple at home. This does indeed require active communication. One cannot assume we know the plight because we share a tone. Each of us has a story all our own, with its own nuances, levels and understandings. Being heard as well as hearing plays an integral part in making home a restful place for the weary.
Being single in the age of Corona is a double-edged sword. Whether a single parent to a pet or human(s), going out into the world can feel like a greater risk as it’s just you. It’s just you gathering the grocery items, lugging the 16-count paper towel pack to the house. May be just you ordering the masks, takeout or even writing up protest signage and donation requests. I know the feeling. What I’ve done, instead of diving into yet another project to distract me from me, is allow myself to be present in this moment. I’ve dialed back my social media usage so I’m not constantly digesting Black trauma. I’ve shared with my coworkers that there are days that I’m not okay and I deserve room to feel those emotions. I’ve taken up more space in my singlehood even more than when I was partnered, so my presence looms larger as I stand in the light. Shifting focus to what you need to thrive along with how to survive in this time is a revolutionary act. Do not allow anyone to pull focus from what you need to be well during this time.
See Each Other Where You Stand/See Where You Stand
Has there ever been a moment when you’re reminded of how your partner looks? Even at surface level, the mind forgets what is routinely in its focus, lighting up when something or someone new comes into our line of sight. We can see our person without fully seeing them, and that vision can tend to fade, unintentionally and otherwise, over time. Things for your partner may have changed recently. The stress of this new livelihood may even have them looking at themselves in a new light. One of the most powerful acts of love that can be done in this time is seeing, truly seeing them, where they stand currently. Perhaps battle-worn, with a fervor activated through trial. As I shared with a friend of mine while chatting about when things would get back to “normal”, normal as we knew it no longer exists. Many of us have shed old selves that have been holding on to old forms. Like a snake molting yet refusing to release its old skin. During quarantine, we may have grown bigger or smaller, found a new niche or completed an old project, rejected old thought patterns and actively worked to build new ones. Many of us have done nothing and everything at once. If partnered, you are reintroducing yourself in a multitude of ways.
If single, do you see where you are? Both physically as well as metaphysically? Can you see the sand between your toes even as you stand in your work boots? What are you allowing yourself to hear about you? What beliefs are you choosing to stand firm in that involve you? What’s your new normal? How does it feel? Does it scare you? Worry you? Provoke you to take charge or hang back? Is your intuition more heightened than before? Good. You’re right where you’re supposed to be. The wars haven’t ended and your resolve to win has only increased. Learn when to fight and when to rest. Do both with intention.
Create Daily Rituals
Prepping to go out into the world requires a routine, now more than ever. Shower. Brush your teeth. Pick out our mask. Remember your latex gloves. Grab extra wipes. Hand sanitizer attached to your bag or keychain. Disinfect your keys. Take your immune booster and/or multivitamin. If you have a full household, double or even triple that workload before crossing the threshold. It’s a lot. With that said, how often is meditation added to that list? How long has it been since you remembered to take a full breath?
Tonight or whenever you’re reading this, steal some moments for you to ground yourself. Pull away from the laptop, schedule, screaming people for a bit to reset. Place a glass of spring water on your windowsill to collect the rays of the moon. Speak into the water all the affirmations you’re seeking to manifest in your life. Drink it in the morning.
Listen to your body
The simple things are what we tend to neglect when under stress. It’s our mind’s way of holding on to control. Our bodies know the pangs of warning, even when it doesn’t know the cause. To meet our bodies where they are, take the time to listen. Firstly, go pee when you have to pee! Yes, your position may be comfortable and moving would only be one more thing added to the list of things to do, but holding on to your urine brings more pressure and stress to the body, as well as holding in toxins that need to be released. Speaking of elimination, hydrate, hydrate, hydrate. Drinking enough water during the day can aid with flushing out your system as well as boosting your mood. A dehydrated body is an overworked body. Hydrating with water and/or tea is a welcome love note to your system. Need to move to expend stuck energy? Create a joint playlist that serves as a flag for the two of you. An audio respite in a time of trouble. As a single Black woman, my Spotify playlist consists of self-love anthems ranging from Top 40 hits to Broadway showtunes. One that hits me right in the feels every time I need reminding of my power even as I’m alone is “Holy” by Jamila Woods. It pulls at the place in me that grew up believing all things holy are outside of me, instead of resting beneath my skin. Play your songs as tribute to yourself and each other.
Remember sleep? More so a sleep schedule? Whether nighttime is now in the middle of the day, get in as much rest as you can. Try not to over-do it, as that will cause more problems in the long run. But do rest on purpose when your body calls for it as best you can.
Check in with your ancestors
We are our ancestors. The warriors that met faces on the battlefields of existence on every plane. In Tulsa. In Seneca. During Tuskegee. Under the horrendous knife of Sims. Now more than ever, our ancestors are warring for us on the other side as we tear down monuments to our demise in this realm. I’m originally from Richmond, VA, the original capital of the confederacy. For Juneteenth, I walked the African Ancestral Burial Ground with libation and offering. After a while, I just sat there, taking in the energy vibrating from the ground. A friend said it must have been heavy. I told her isn’t wasn’t. She looked surprised. Instead, I told her the ground was moving, as if our ancestors buried there were raising up together, banging on tables, clapping and clasping hands to say we’re finally doing it: revolting without fear. With Ancestor veneration and reverence, there is recognition. An understanding that though they may no longer be here in the physical, their legacies – the ones bought and sold in blood, riches, feast and famine – live on in us at cellular levels. Connecting to our dead ones is honestly a means to connect with ourselves. We honor by paying tribute and libation. We chatted above about hydrating and thriving in the midst of struggle. I encourage you to place a glass of spring water and a white candle on a flat, raised surface and call in your Ancestors of love, light and power for a talk. Prepare to meet levels of yourself in that space. Connection is here to be had.
Whether partnered with another or self-partnered, understand there will be moments of loneliness in every capacity. I know the feeling of being alone with a warm body laying next to me. There is safety in acknowledging that the inklings of being alone may be here for a bit, but lonely we are not. The flipside is being so full of someone that you lose grasp of yourself, which reveals a level of codependency that can render a loneliness deeper than simply “feeling” alone. As home continues to evolve, the landscape of this nation begins to crumble, there is still a home which to return. Home is you.Lear More
If the holiday season evokes more stress than excitement in you, you’re not alone.
In truth, the holidays have become something bigger than they need to be. Every year, they seem to take up more and more of the winter season, with Christmas music playing before trick-or-treating is even over.
Absolutely nothing is wrong with wanting to avoid getting swept up in the media madness that has made this time of year into something more. There is no pressure to feel anything specific about the holidays. If they make you feel joyful, fantastic, but if they don’t, that’s okay, too. For many LGBTQ people, the holidays can be filled with anxiety and trauma as we anticipate seeing family and friends who may have rejected our identities or to whom we are not yet out.
If this time of year is indeed a source of stress for you, Urban Playology offers special holiday sessions and consultations. For now, here are a few tips to help get you through the holidays:
1. Begin a daily grounding ritual before the holidays begin
Whether first thing in the morning or before bed each night, doing something consistent every day will help you feel grounded and present within your own body. This ritual can be anything, from walking your dog to meditating to dancing around your room to putting on your favorite body oil to talking to a friend.
Whatever ritual you choose, make sure you begin before the holidays and continue doing after. Just like there is a warm up and a cool down when we exercise, we need to both prepare our minds and bodies for the events to come and also help them recover when they are over.
2. Volunteer and Commit Random Acts of Kindness
Doing something kind for another person is one of the best ways to feel better when you are sad or stressed. It allows you to step outside of yourself for a while—and it just feels really good. So sign up to volunteer at a soup kitchen or do an extra round of dishes at home without asking for a thank you or acknowledgement—anything you do that will brighten someone’s day is sure to also brighten yours.
3. Self-care, self-care, self-care
It seems obvious, but when you’re hungry, eat. When you’re tired, sleep. When you have to go to the bathroom, go. When you need a moment to be alone and breathe, excuse yourself. All of this impacts your stress levels, so make sure your body and mind are nourished and being given what they need.
4. Make a family pact
If you’re worried about difficult conversations coming up at family gatherings, find out if your family will agree to certain topics being off the table while you’re all together.
5. Focus on the positive
Whatever we focus on gets bigger. If we focus on the positive, we see more positivity. If we focus on the negative, we see more negativity. Do your best to focus on the positive things in your life, and maybe even the positive things about your family.
6. Know that it’s okay to decide to stay home this year
Sometimes, it’s okay to make the difficult decision to avoid being with the people who cause you stress. If you’re going to be more upset or traumatized after visits with your family, if it will be harder for you to go back to work or go back to your friends or partner, ask yourself if it is really worth it.
Remember, your family and where you come from is only one aspect of who you are. You are not just the child of your parents, the sibling of your siblings, the grandchild to your grandparents. You are a writer, a photographer, a doctor, a friend, a partner, someone with interests and hobbies. You are bigger than your family.
7. Consider temporarily giving up social media
Take a break and focus on yourself this holiday season. If you need help committing to the hiatus, find an accountability partner that can keep you on track.
8. When you’re feeling true despair, wait five minutes
When you are starting to feel really dark and despairing, give yourself five minutes. If you wait five minutes, that feeling will peak, and then wait another five minutes and you should start to feel better, especially if you have someone you can share your despair with. Urban Playology clients have access to their therapist 24/7. Reaching out to a therapist or a friend you can trust can quickly help you start to feel more regulated.
Keep in mind that there is no pressure for your holiday season to be any one thing. Everything is going to be okay, as long as we stop trying to define what “ok” looks like.
Here are some more articles about the importance of self-care:
At Urban Playology, we meet people where they are. That includes young loves, ages 2-18, and their families. Play therapy and creative arts allow us to extend our supreme embrace to young loves and families.
Perhaps your young love’s personality or their energy has shifted in a way that’s got you concerned. Maybe they are underperforming or underachieving at school. Perhaps the other caring adults in your close-knit community ie a coach, or a dance teacher, or an extended family member, etc express concern after a recent encounter with your young love.
Perhaps you’re finding it more difficult to sleep soundly at night because you find yourself more worried about your young love. But you can’t put your finger on it. Maybe on the surface and by all accounts, everything seems or should be just fine. Perhaps you’ve been meaning to make sure your young love has the support they deserve to get through a tough time your family has been having ie conscious uncoupling, a move, a recent death, etc. Maybe they’ve actually asked if they could see a talking doctor or a talking doctor who works with children or a fun doctor for children.
Perhaps your young love has recently received a new diagnosis ie ADHD, ADD, depression, anxiety, gender identity concerns, etc. and you’re trying to figure out what it all means.
It may be hard to believe but our experience is that play therapy and expressive arts can help make things clearer.
The toys are the words and play is the language. Meeting young people who are hurting where they are means making what’s natural to them be available to them.
In play therapy and expressive arts therapy, both widely research-based modalities, young people can express themselves-their thoughts, their feelings, their hopes, and dreams.
There are 2 preliminary office-based consultations if you will.
At the 1st appointment, about 50 minutes in duration, we meet with parents or caregivers first. We meet in the play therapy space which allows parents to see and experience the place where their child’s healing will take place. We converse freely amongst ourselves as adults. Sometimes parents or caregivers share photos of, videos of, and/or artwork created by their young love hands.
At the 2nd appointment, also lasting about 50 minutes in duration, parents and their young loves come to the space and young people are encouraged to see how they feel here if this is a place they’d like to come to on a regular basis for a while.
Families are then encouraged to return home and have a family conference about their collective decision about how they wish to proceed.
Would they like to have Urban Playology as support on their healing journey?… That’s the question they get to ask themselves.
We wait patiently for follow up from all families. We totally trust you to do what’s best for your family.
We book the 1st official play therapy session. Parents or caregivers are welcomed to participate in this session, especially if young people request such. We find that even when they’re hurting, young people still know exactly what their hearts need. And yes, sometimes the young people who make their way 2 UP want the grown-ups to play with them.
There are few rules in the world of play therapy. Perhaps that’s why we love it so! 🙂 The rules that do exists ie toys remain in the play therapy room etc hopefully and lovingly anchor young people to the real world.
Sometimes we enjoy a nourishing snack with the music of the choice of the young ones while we create healing art or healing scenes in the sand tray. Sand tray therapy is a co expressive arts modality.
Sometimes we take a walk. I think the hardest thing about having your young love in play therapy and/or expressive arts therapy is the waiting and the enigmatic energy of it all. We get to trust them and lean into trusting ourselves as the grownups.
It’s like: “How does playing with toys that honestly seem less modern than what we’ve invested in at home help with my child’s tantrums, or potty training accidents, or their nightmares?!? This is quite the expensive use of our finances and our time!”
To that valid concern, I would say that when young people feel fully supported in their healing, they get to really focus on that healing. We follow their lead every step of the way. We get to trust them and lean into the trust of ourselves as the grownups.
When you really think about it, how could something so life-giving have anything but a sustainably positive impact?…
If they are worried about being a burden or are worried about the perceived burden as associated with their issues, therapy may have a negative impact. When they are ready for their long goodbye, it always becomes crystal clear.
Here’s one of our favorite books about play therapy. Sometimes families read the book at home before our 1st appointment or during the 1st all member appointment.
Here’s a couple of our favorite videos about play therapy.
Here’s one of our favorite articles about play therapy from the Association for Play Therapy, the accrediting body for Xanthia’s credential.
Here’s one of our favorite articles about expressive therapy & creative arts therapies:
Xanthia has earned the most advanced credential-the Registered Play Therapist Supervisor credential. She is also a national trainer of other hopeful play therapists and expressive arts therapists. She has also studied under internationally recognized master experts in the field. In 2018, Xanthia & Urban Playology also received the Service Award from the MD/DC Branch of the Association for Play Therapy.Lear More
You deserve a therapist who sees you and fully embraces you. Finding a supreme fit takes time for exploration and may be challenging for many. You are worth the effort. I’ve read a lot of blogs about how to find the right therapist.
Most take a practical approach.
* Professional discipline i.e. Clinical counseling, clinical psychology, clinical social work.- check
* Licensure Credentials-check.
* Insurance accepted-check.
* Experience working with others who have had your problem-check.
* Theoretical approach that seems to align with your beliefs & values-check.
* Preferred availability i.e. weekdays, weekends, etc-check.
All of these are super important! What’s talked about less often is the need to take a moment for reflection about how you feel when you’re talking to your prospective therapists upon the first encounter via email or phone and to what degree the therapist might be a supreme fit for your current needs- logistically, emotionally, and financially.
* How quickly after your first outreach were you able to connect with the psychotherapist?…
* Does the conversation flow?…
* Do you feel hopeful after the encounter?…
* Was the psychotherapist kind, courteous, & respectful towards you?…
* Did they take time to respond to your questions in full?…
* Do the quoted rates i.e. co-pays, etc. work for your budget?
Some psychotherapists take an initial administrative approach when you reach out to them. They are happy to get you scheduled right away. Maybe within the week. Others, like us at UP, offer a brief complimentary consultation first. We value you & your time & we want to ensure that we have a clear sense of what’s hurting your heart right now. If you’ve reached out and someone’s profile really resonates with you, it may be helpful to reach out to them via email and phone. You may want to follow-up if you have not heard back from them within 24 business hours.
For scheduling, be prepared to offer up your supreme availability. It increases the likelihood of snagging an appointment sooner than later. Do what you can to plan your flexibility. Once your appointment is scheduled, guarding your availability may involve partial or full disclosure to key stakeholders i.e. immediate supervisors, closest friends, and family members, etc. regarding your new standing therapy appointment.
Here are other introspective queries:
* Am I ready for the commitment of time that psychotherapy may require of me?…
* Am I ready for the emotional vulnerability that sometimes comes with psychotherapy?…
* Am I ready for the temporary financial investment of psychotherapy?…
* To any of the aforementioned, how would I know if I was ready?…
* What are my hopes & expectations of psychotherapy?… To be honest, I think it can take time to find a really dope therapist i.e. maybe 1-3 months depending on your search dedication. Consider that many therapists are seeing back-to-back clients during the workday. And if you’re returning to therapy after being away for a while, know that the landscape of mental health support may have evolved. I know that when you’re hurting, a process like the one described may seem arduous, perhaps insurmountable. Sometimes people feel that this is a lot more work than they bargained for, especially when they’re hurting and they’re just really in need of kind, supportive counseling. You get to decide what takes precedence-meeting with the first available person or doing the work on the front end to improve the likelihood of identifying a supreme fit. Sometimes it either takes several sessions with one therapist or several first meetings with several different therapists. I suggest that you pursue each scenario exclusively of one another for optimal results.
In my experience, openness & willingness to connect with your supreme fit therapist can be a kind of spiritual or existential experience. The waiting and uncertainty can be tough when you are already in a lot of emotional pain. In this case, you may consider working with a foster therapist on a brief consultative basis while also continuing in your search for a therapist to call home. Perhaps your foster therapist can support you in identifying a dope therapist as well. Some do opt to get support from other healers i.e. reiki practitioners, sound bath therapists, astrologers, priestesses, nature therapists, etc. They enlist those healers while waiting for the identification of a therapist or while on the waiting list for their top choice therapist.
Sometimes, supportive dyads or triads will reach out together to prospective psychotherapists. This system can help reduce the anxiety that can sometimes come with meeting a new psychotherapist. Sometimes families use this outreach technique as well. If you prefer a more secondary backstage support plan for finding your dope therapist, perhaps you can enlist an accountability partner. You can schedule progress check-ins with your partner so that hopefully you don’t feel as alone in the process. Sometimes you may have to invest in a paid assistant who, once they know what you’re looking for, can help you narrow down your search.
Psychology Today (hyperlink), an extensive online hub for psychotherapists and healers of various disciplines, & Therapyforblackgirls (hyperlink) a nationwide directory of female therapists of color, may be resources. Bark.com (hyperlink) is a potential resource that allows you to answer a few pertinent questions about your dream therapist. Think Match.com. You then receive emails of prospective psychotherapist matches that you can reach out to directly. The National Queer & Trans Therapists of Color Network is another resource for individuals who wish to work with a psychotherapist who specializes in providing kind and affirming counseling support to the LGBTIQA community. You may also want to check out some of our favorite therapists of color in the DMV as found here (hyperlink). Ask around too! You’d be surprised by who else knows of a good therapist.
Lastly, whoever you choose as your therapist, make sure they really wanna know you, make sure they really see you. Make sure they really feel you. You deserve that. If by chance, you are transitioning to a new therapist, I invite you to first be sure that you aren’t running from a growth opportunity with your current therapist. It may be helpful to practice transparency with your current therapist to make sure that you are on the record about how you are experiencing the work with them. You may want to allow 1-2 months to see how things go. And then if you are still feeling compelled to explore other options, you may want to let them know. This is a part of healthy transitions and long goodbyes. Remember that therapists are human too and many have been called to this work.
I promise that if you practice vulnerability and you are honest with your dope new therapist, you WILL feel better. And although therapy is not for everyone, I do believe it can be beneficial to anyone.
Whatever you do, don’t give up! You, mon cherie, deserve the world.Lear More
Effective January 2019, our full 50-minute psychotherapy rate is $200 and we do not accept insurance.
We have come by way of such thoughtfully, respectfully, & nobly. When we first opened the doors of Urban Playology in 2010, our full fee rate was $65/session. That worked well for us and clients then. We were paneled with several Employee Assistance Program (EAP)companies and a handful of insurance providers, & a local compensation fund. What changed you may wonder…
Well, you may have noticed that after setting your eye on what could potentially be the therapist of your dreams, your heart sinks to find out that they don’t accept your insurance. They don’t accept any insurance. Or maybe you’ve been working with a good therapist and what feels like all of the sudden, they share that they aren’t going to be accepting your insurance anymore.
You super work hard and you have the right to use your insurance. No working person you may believe would be able to afford what shouldn’t be but is increasingly beginning to feel like a luxury, widening the divide between the haves & the have-nots. We totally get that.
Here’s what we believe. When people make a strong commitment to themselves because they’ve been in excruciating pain, that commitment is ever present. It flows like a mighty river. Therapy is a short-term investment of time, energy, and money for a hopeful lifetime of happiness.
It doesn’t make sense for us to advocate for your social justice wellness if we aren’t practicing that same financial fortitude and wellness at Urban Playology. Sometimes despite having provided skilled and soulful care, insurance companies withhold payment from providers. The appeal process for denied claims as they are termed is so arduous that it undoubtedly impacts the care we know we can provide to you.
If we worried about receiving timely and fair compensation, you likely won’t get the care you deserve. And not because we withhold quality care from anyone but because now this elephant of uncertainty about insurance remittance for services provided has infiltrated our sacred our work together.
It was admittedly tough to ascribe a numerical value of alleged confidentiality also known as a diagnostic code to the journey that very strong people are having. We wouldn’t want anyone to do that to us.
Most of the people who make their way to Urban Playology participate in a fee recycle program. When this process works seamlessly:
‘FLOW CHART STARTS HERE
1-We provide the service.
2-We are compensated when services are rendered.
3-People seek reimbursement for the expense directly from the insurance company
4-The insurance company reimburses some or all of the fee.
5-The reimbursement is presented at the next therapy appointment when services are rendered.
In the event that insurance companies reject your direct claims for some reason, counseling/psychotherapy is considered a tax-deductible expense.
Please note that while the Intake fee is fixed, we do offer a generous 3, 6, or 9-month sliding scale fee program upon request.
We do not turn hopefuls reaching out for help away. We wouldn’t do that. We are expanding our services to include offerings at more modest price points such as a monthly group, 1/2 day workshops, yogic movement classes like trap yoga style :-), intensive and restorative weekend retreats, supportive self-help products, nature therapy groups, group therapy for entrepreneurs, and so much more!
We have to keep the doors open for you. We are determined to do that. We owe no financial institution nor have we debted on credits sake. We never have and we don’t plan on it. We’ve opted for organic growth and super hard work that speaks for itself. It serves no greater good for us to play small by relying on a transient entity for our livelihood. That deep truth came to Xanthia in her meditation in the woods in 2016. At first, it was a faint whisper that eventually evolved into a resounding echo. We wouldn’t, in good conscience support, you in living small either. We took a chance on ourselves and we are standing strong like an oak.
We look forward to supporting you as the mighty oak you already are.Lear More
We all know what it feels like to enter a space & be apprehensive about whether you wanna be there or whether you’re welcomed there. It’s feels like Alessia Cara’s Here video. Super awkward & uncomfortable! And when you’re already feeling like an outlier in your daily life, you become super attuned to the welcoming vs. exclusionary energy.
And it just shouldn’t be like that when you’re going to counseling. It’s a big courageous step to ask for support in the 1st place. The least we can do at Urban Playology is make sure you feel welcomed & supremely embraced from the moment you initially connect with us via phone or email to the moment you leave the office for the 1st time. And of course, thereafter!
There’s all these neuro-biological nuances to my method. I spend lots & lots & lots & lots of time refining it. Think Jiryo Dreams of Sushi. I’ve studied under the best relationship experts in the DMV and abroad. I have a diverse family of mentors and my interaction with these amazing people have really fortified the foundational elements to my method. I guess when I, as the pupil, was ready, my teachers appeared.
Healing abound is available to those who truly feel safe & even more embraced, no matter what. So bring your yoga mat, your playlist, your bestie, your boo, your sushi, your puppy (sorry no cats-I’m allergic, but you can totally bring a photo) and let’s get to work on the healing you deserve so much. And plus, if karma is real, why not just be nice?!? O! It’s not all on us, as therapists. I do believe that clients contribute the practice of trusting the therapist, trusting the process. I’ve never met a person who didn’t practice trust. And I know I never will.Lear More
So I’ve watched the Whitney Houston “Can I Be Me” documentary several times. I miss her so much. I remember when I heard that she had passed away. I was so stunned and so sad, it was hard to process. Even though it was 2012, I’m still admittedly processing how such a soulful, talented icon’s life could be cut so short.
I ‘m so glad, so relieved that I followed my heart & opened Urban Playology. If you build it, they WILL come. I revel in supporting faith-conflicted families struggling with the prospective or confirmed sexual minority status of a loved one. Its super tough for families, especially families of color who sometimes worry about how the addition of yet another minority marker could/would affect their loved one’s life trajectory.
Meanwhile there’s this amazingly talented, beautiful person on the other end of the family’s grief, trying to figure out if it’s at all worth it to stick around in this life. That maybe the greatest gift they can offer to their family is to fade away into silence.
In these situations, it’s my job, my privilege, my honor to hold onto the rainbow of hope that emerges from the ashes of such despair. The rainbow always emerges.
How To Get Legit: Private Practice Bound & Entrepreneurial Clinicians!
I remember what it was like working full time at a busy public mental health agency.
You meet with your administrative supervisor for like one hour a week. And during those meetings, all’s that’s really up for discussion is how many billable hours you’ve accrued. Sometimes there simply isn’t enough time to how you are doing, how your soul is doing in this hard work. And it’s not enough support when you’re trying your best to provide quality services to all of your deserving clients. Then too there’s always a dilemma, a how-to question, and self care quandary. It was a lot for me! Maybe it’s a lot for you too. So if you find yourself yearning for a soul-nurturing, safe place to develop your clinical practice, give me a call now to hear more about how I can help.
Maybe you want to meet regularly or maybe you’re just really stumped about a particular situation. I’d love to help you intentionally focus on your personal goals & professional skills in meaningful ways. This is truly a heartfelt investment that your future self will thank you for!
Consultation topics include but are not limited to:
What The Heck Comes First?
- Balancing Administrative Duties & Clinical Responsibilities in the Work
- Say Something! I’m Giving Up On You-Successfully Engaging Guarded Clients
- Give It Up, Turn It Loose-Effectively Applying Transference & Countertransference in Treatment
- Ease On Ease On Down The Road-Moving Forward In The Journey to Licensure (LGPC, LCPC, & LPC)
- Boo’ed Up-Navigating the RPT and/or RPT-S Credentialing Process
- Give It Up, Turn It Loose-Finding Your Clinical Niche & Ambitiously Establishing Specialization
- Drop It Like It’s Hot-Effectively Guarding Against Burn-Out
- What’s Goin On?!?-Play Therapy Case Consultation (Identifying Themes of Play & Expressive Arts Interventions)